A mistress is a woman who has sex with a man, but is not his wife. Most often, the word has a disapproving connotation. In the past, a lover was called a woman in love, a beloved. Confrontation between wives and mistresses can be called classic in family life. However, often wives in their righteous anger seem to cease to distinguish the truth from the deliberate lie. Mistresses are endowed with exclusively negative qualities, these are certainly "bitches" who see how to drink blood from men and siphon money out of them, make them dependent on themselves. But there are many ordinary women among mistresses who are just looking for their female happiness. So, let's debunk some myths about lovers.
These women attack men themselves. Today you will not surprise anyone with women's initiative. However, the initiators of love relationships are still men. It is they who make compliments, ask for a phone number, become the initiators of acquaintance, it is the stronger sex who often sticks, gives gifts, flowers, persuades, and so on. Often women say that men, like a cat, follow them, in every possible way hiding the fact of their marriage. Men love to shower their chosen ones with love gifts and notes, fulfilling any, even absurd whims. As a result of a long and beautiful, to be honest, siege, a woman often surrenders, in the hope of her possible happiness. So you shouldn't blame your mistress for everything, it is still unknown how your husband behaved in this situation, perhaps he is not as innocent and harmless as he tries to seem.
This woman is doing everything to destroy our family. The most interesting thing is that many mistresses do not have such a thing in their thoughts, dating does not necessarily mean destroying his marriage. The situation is somewhat similar to the one that exists in youth - people meet, but they don't really think about marriage. Many such women perfectly understand all the shortcomings of their man, realizing that the holiday comes only at moments of short meetings, but everyday life together would certainly turn into a nightmare. Who needs problems? Therefore, not everyone, even in the event of a divorce, would agree to tie themselves in marriage to a lover. For many mistresses, the joy of rare encounters is much more attractive than the routine of marriage. While a man is in the position of a lover, it is worth waiting for gifts of attention from him, but in a marriage, such signs can be long and not received.
You cannot build your happiness on the misfortune of another. But many mistresses are not tormented by pangs of conscience about this. This phrase often sounds from the lips of deceived wives. But it usually happens in life that one's own happiness brings misfortune to someone. You can remember how many broken hearts, for example, there were in my younger years. But having found their soul mate in those years, the girls were not at all tormented by the fact that they made someone unhappy, on the contrary, they were proud of the fact that they took the chosen one away from their rival. Now, having lived for a long time with a guy who had once been taken away from someone, the wives remembered about someone else's misfortune ...
We were such a good couple, and she ruined everything overnight. Why now remember the past? Those days have already passed. One has only to think about the fact that if everything was so perfect, and the husband loved his wife to unconsciousness, then why did he start a mistress? Perhaps everything was destroyed even before the lover appeared on the horizon, and you were already living on the wreckage of former happiness, indulging yourself with the illusions of strong love and a lasting family life?
She could find herself a single man, of whom there are many around. No, she definitely needs a married person to realize her bitchiness, a sense of a sense of drive. For an unmarried man at the age of 30-40, this fact is almost a diagnosis. The fact that he is either a complete egoist, or an alcoholic or a drug addict, or a parasite, or does not know how to take care of anyone, and so on. Men usually marry at the moment when they feel that the time has come for them to settle down, that it is no longer appropriate to be single. The bonds of marriage allow them to become full-fledged members of society, help in moving up the career ladder, and help to avoid accusations of being complex. The simplest option is to find a spouse so that someone can take care of the man - wash, cook, clean, equip the home ... Well, the fact of marriage for great love cannot be ruled out. So there are not so many single promising suitors around, but among married men it is much easier to find a person dear to the heart.
There is no need to covet someone else's. Sadly, after the wedding, many women believe that "the main thing is done." The husband becomes their full property. Hence, it is not surprising that such wives want to completely control the activities of their men - where they dine, with whom they communicate, what they are doing at that minute and why they were five minutes late. One gets the impression that this is not only their right, but also the duty to control their "thing". And here the husband may well resist, feeling himself still a person who has his own feelings, needs, a circle of communication, perhaps even desires on the verge of what is permissible. Therefore, it is not surprising that a man is looking for another life in which he will look like the master of the situation. And if there is an intelligent woman who will give him such an opportunity, then the marriage will crack at the seams. I would like to remind wives that the effect of complete control and suppression of a man can lead to unpleasant consequences.
All mistresses are immoral women. What can be immoral in the relationship between a man and a woman? A lover can be a meek and shy woman who doesn't have a bit of bitchiness. It's just that some of them were unlucky in their personal lives, but they really want women's happiness. The presence of a lover does not make them worse or more depraved, life just happened that way.
Mistresses only need money from a man. Finding a decent man is harder than making that money. Exactly the man whom you will truly love. And wouldn't many women give up everything material in order to meet and stay with him? Usually women aged 30-40 already have a job and are more or less well off, do not die of hunger. They are beautifully and tastefully dressed, enjoy life, like everyone else, not needing a piece of bread in order not to starve to death. And do not think that all men are necessarily generous in relation to their mistresses. All the same, after all, the bulk of the money goes to the family, and the lovers are left with periodic gifts, whose value cannot be reflected in the family's budget. Of course, this does not apply to the so-called gold diggers, who deliberately look for richer men and in every possible way lure gifts and jewelry from them. We are still talking about ordinary women, of whom the majority.
Mistresses set a bad example for children. It can be stated that young children will not learn about anything or simply will not understand, but adults themselves are able to accept the situation as it is, realizing that their mother also has the right to happiness. Parenting is not just personal examples. And who of us is ideal, always and in everything giving children the right personal examples?
A mistress would be in the place of a deceived wife ... It is foolish to engage in presenting yourself in someone else's place. After all, you can imagine yourself in the place of those whom we undeservedly offended and cheated, you can imagine yourself in the place of a person at the moment of his greatest mourning. What's the point? In life, everyone fights for their personal happiness, in this race, everyone is only for himself. This moral is quite enough. After all, stopping and thinking about all the moral aspects of your own actions will lead to the fact that you will not see at all in thoughts and happiness. It is better to think about your own actions, about why your husband actually left for another? Are you ready to accept him back and forgive him and what needs to be done for this? Or should you start a new life without long torment about a broken family? It is better to draw the necessary conclusions than to accuse a rival of numerous fictitious sins.