The most important moment in the life of any couple in love is weddings. For many girls, the wedding becomes the most beautiful day in her life.
White dress, sea of flowers, congratulations and smiles. I would like to prepare myself as best as possible for this unforgettable event. But a wedding requires attention to many details. How to make things better? In this case, it is important not to succumb to the numerous myths and misconceptions that go around this solemn event - weddings.
The bride must be wearing a white dress. In today's world, prejudice is no longer as important as it used to be. Therefore, if a white dress and a long veil to the floor do not make the heart flutter, as it did in childhood, then you should not obey stereotypes. Today, a fashionable bride chooses the type of outfit and its color in which she can feel more comfortable. When choosing a wedding dress, there is no need to focus on white. Today, fashion designers offer a large number of modern, elegant outfits for this solemn event. The bride can also experiment, trying on outfits of different colors and choosing the one that she likes. A veil and tiara can be replaced with hairpins with feathers, beads and pearls. Fresh or artificial flowers can also come in handy. No one denies the elegance of white, but pale pink or cream can compete with this. Dresses of dusty gray, pale yellow or lavender color will also look great on the bride. And the tradition of a white dress for the bride appeared only in the 19th century. This is the color that Queen Victoria chose when she married Prince Albert.
It is better not to invite wedding specialists; friends will cope with this task better. Often, guests come to a wedding with photographs and take many pictures. However, you shouldn't think that their work might be better than that of a real wedding photographer. Yes, an expert friend in fashion and a cheerful toastmaster friend cannot replace professionals. For example, an experienced wedding photographer will be able to combine staging and live reporting in wedding photography. This person knows what important points of the wedding should be focused on, he will be ready to take a picture at this moment. And with friends, there is always a risk that they will miss something important, raising a toast at this moment, leaving for a smoke, or simply choosing an unsuccessful angle. The photographer has honed his skills at numerous similar events. The same can be said about stylists, musicians, florists and toastmaster. Each of them knows their work and its possible nuances at this celebration. An inexperienced specialist in the event of an emergency situation may simply get confused. If you really want to save money, then it is better to find a cheaper option than asking friends who have never served weddings for help. In the end, the guests at the wedding want and should rest, and not work for the sake of the newlyweds who have spared money for professionals.
If you were invited to a wedding, then you need to invite these people to yours. To think this way is to artificially drive yourself into a trap. Only a couple of newlyweds have to decide who they want to see next to them on this special day. It is worth inviting only the closest people who will sincerely rejoice at the event and give smiles. You cannot be guided by a sense of duty and invite someone just because they once invited you. If there are financial reasons to limit the circle of guests, then it is worth explaining in advance to those acquaintances who were not invited about your decision. True friends will understand such a choice, there should be no place for resentment. I must tell you that finances allow you to organize only a wedding in a close circle of your closest relatives and friends.
Using the services of an agency or wedding planner is unnecessary and expensive. This myth can be very harmful, as a third-party wedding planner can save a significant portion of the budget allocated for the event. It can be assumed that a woman does not get married so often that she knows all the possibilities to save money on such an event without losing quality. But a specialist in this field is already working closely with car rental companies, florists, musicians, restaurants. Long-term cooperation makes it possible to get significant discounts, which an individual client is not able to achieve. This is a very attractive option. In addition, you can ask the organizers to keep track of the budget, clearly controlling expenses and not exceeding the established bar. If the funds do not allow you to hire an assistant for the entire period of preparation for the wedding, then you should hire a wedding coordinator at least on the day of the celebration itself. This will help the couple on a special day not to deal with organizational problems, but to enjoy the wedding itself.
You can save a lot if you do most of the wedding work yourself. Many couples decide, for example, not to purchase elegant invitation cards, but to make them themselves. But it will be a mistake to think that it will be cheaper to make a guest book, bouquets, boutonnieres with your own hands. The same invitations with their decoration, satin ribbons and beads will take a lot of time to make. It will be beneficial if all the material and tools are already in stock. But purchasing everything in parts can be an expensive pleasure, only high-quality paper for invitation is worth something. The desire to make your own wedding props can significantly increase the budget of the entire event. And how long will it take! You have to not only do something, but also learn how to do it! Probably, it's still easier to either find someone who will take care of these troubles, or even purchase ready-made options. After all, there are people who buy the same paper in industrial volumes, and making invitations is the main job. Wanting to do something for the wedding with your own hands, it is better to choose just one or a couple of elements. Thus, the craving for creativity will be realized, and time will be saved.
There should be an equal number of guests on both sides. Is it a normal situation when, in order to comply with such an unwritten rule, one side invites brothers and sisters with their families, and the other invites a distant uncle from a provincial backwater, whom they have not seen for many years. At a wedding, one should think not about the number of guests and their belonging to one of the parties, but about the spiritual closeness of these people. After all, one wants so much that on this day there were really loving newlyweds nearby, and not by chance distant relatives who happened to be here.
Better to throw a loud wedding, even if you borrow money. There are quite a few wedding savings tools. Starting a family life with debt is not the best solution for a young family. In this case, it is important to prioritize. If the main thing for the bride is her gorgeous dress and a brilliant photo session, then you can refuse an expensive limousine and reduce the number of guests. If the goal is to amaze everyone with a banquet and table decoration, then you should choose a simpler outfit. You need to make a list of what is most important, and then look for ways to save money in other articles.
Guests must buy a gift for the same amount as their participation in the banquet cost. According to this myth, young people should divide the amount they spent by the number of guests, expecting an appropriate gift from them. It is believed that the wedding should "pay off". But today, wedding planners find this approach outdated. Guests can and should spend as much as they see fit. Not everyone can afford expensive gifts, this should not prevent a loved one from getting to the celebration.
The most successful month for a wedding is June. Astrological predictions repeat this, but if you read them closely, they guarantee a happy marriage in other months. But the immense popularity of June for the date of the wedding has led to the fact that the cost of organizing a wedding this month increases markedly. It may be worth choosing another warm month - July or August, and September is not usually cold either. The worst month for a wedding is May. They say that those who marry in May will have to constantly "toil" afterwards. Don't take this beautiful spring month so badly. In his favor is the fact that in May it is already warm, but not yet as hot as in summer. The same weather is in autumn, but the probability of rain is much higher. And there is no need to talk about winter - this is the most unfortunate time for a wedding. Just imagine a wedding photo session in a snowy park, a bride in thin shoes on ice. Such an event can turn into a bouquet of diseases, and not the joy of a joint union.
Until the very exit to the altar, the groom should not see the bride. Experts believe that this is a common superstition that is not supported by anything. There is nothing wrong with young people looking at each other before the ceremony. They can be convinced of the beauty of their outfits, get rid of stress. This will make the ceremony even more harmonious and beautiful.
The last night before the wedding, the bride and groom should be separated. This myth must have been invented by the groom's friends from other cities, who want to spend the last evening before the wedding in the men's company and remember the old days. Newlyweds need to remember that when building their future life and relationship together, everything depends on them. Therefore, you should not obey external circumstances and beliefs.
Guests should make a gift - a photo frame with a portrait of the young. It seems that this myth was invented by the sellers of photo frames themselves. Wanting to please your guests, you can significantly diversify the set of gifts. These can be chocolates, beautifully packaged cupcakes and various designer original items.
Only women dream of a wedding. This is usually considered to be so. After all, the accepted point of view is that men are fickle and marriage is a way to keep him in a relationship. But in life there are also reverse situations - a man feels the precariousness of his position. Then the wedding and the appearance of then children can become a tool for saving the family.
Weddings after several years of civil marriage do not make sense, the family quickly falls apart. Unfortunately, this is evidenced by statistics. However, it is generally accepted that cohabitation before marriage avoids many mistakes, including the wedding itself. In this case, you should not delay the civil marriage, because then the desire to organize a wedding may disappear altogether.
Weddings are a must-have with guests and a banquet. This point of view usually belongs to women, for whom a wedding without a celebration is not a wedding. After all, everyone wants to be a real queen for at least one day. But men are much more pragmatic. They believe that the money that will be spent on the celebration can be put into business or taken on a honeymoon trip.
The first wedding night should be passionate. It used to be believed that it was on this night that young people could first enter into intimacy with each other. Today the situation has changed. A stormy celebration leads to the fact that at the end of the evening, the newlyweds barely reach their bed of love. The most persistent can only have time to unpack the gifts and count the money donated. And it is better to make love in the morning, after a quality rest.
The newlyweds cannot be photographed separately from each other, they must be with each other all day. They say that no one can even get between the newlyweds, otherwise such a marriage will fall apart. In fact, for a warmer and more friendly atmosphere at a wedding, the bride and groom must interact closely with the guests. You shouldn't sit motionless at the tables like wedding props. After all, at the wedding you can also meet relatives, friends who have not been seen for a long time. How not to talk to them? And in the photo album, photos will be appropriate where the photos were taken impromptu, without the classical setting. The bride can be close to her parents or a generous uncle. The groom will look great in the company of young and beautiful friends.
During registration it is impossible for the ring to fall. This prejudice is one of the most common at a wedding. We need to calmly approach this issue and understand that the ring can fall out of the hands simply because of excitement. Indeed, at this moment a lot of people are looking at a person, flashes flash. This setting is quite unusual for anyone. After that, shouldn't you be surprised that stress caused by even positive emotions can lead to hand shake? Loss of the ring in such a situation is also not the worst thing that can happen.